Thoughts

Thoughts … to Ponder Some Days……

Carrie Bradshaw as everyone knows was my favorite character on Sex and the City. Sure, she occasionally teaches us valuable lessons, but for the most part, her buddies Charlotte, Samantha, and Miranda do the heavy lifting—so it pains me a teeny tiny bit to admit that, well, Carrie was actually right out a whole lot. Carrie, like me actually spoke some truth.

One of my favorite quotes, Carrie said, “Maybe all men are a drug. Sometimes they bring you down, and sometimes, like now, they get you so high.”

Where love is but a blinding force, and when we’re in it, we’re stuck riding the emotional wave all the way from cloud nine to misery town and back again.

I often ask myself one of her pondering quotes, “You can’t stop being who you are because you’re afraid, right?”

My belief is you are you for a reason, after all! Hiding it for the sake of a relationship just digs you into a deeper hole. Its too much work to put up a façade .

Another question she once pondered that was two-folded; “Did I ever really love Big or was I addicted to the pain, the exquisite pain, of wanting someone so unattainable?” “Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate.”

My experience is if we didn’t screw up, how would we ever learn anything? How would we ever veer off the path to experiences that are even more perfect for us?

“When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psychotic.” How many “Amen’s” can I get for that quote ??? So many times I sigh, the world is an unfair place. Hello, double standards!

This quote I have framed in my office, “Occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going.

In my opinion, regrets solve nothing! All we can do is move forward.

Carrie pondered a really interesting thought, “When it comes to relationships, maybe we’re all in glass houses, and shouldn’t throw stones. Because you can never really know.” The only people who truly know a relationship are the people who are in it, so the rest of us can just butt out, thank you very much—that means you too.

My biggest road block in life is perfectly stated .. “Sometimes you gotta quit thinking so much. If it feels right, it probably is. So just go with it.” Love alone is not always enough, but there comes a point when no planning or second-guessing in the world can tell you whether your relationship will make it. You’ve just gotta go for it!

“After a break-up, certain streets, locations, even times of day are off-limits. The city becomes a deserted battlefield, loaded with emotional landmines. You have to be very careful where you step or you could be blown to pieces.” SO MUCH YES. Baggage is the worst! One moment you’re passing an old college haunt on your commute, and the next you’re reliving a long lost love from three years ago. BLEAK.

My ultimate hitting the nail on the head quote;, “I think I’m in love with him and I’m terrified he’s gonna leave me cause I’m not perfect.” We’ve all been there (more than once!) but hey, friendly reminder: The person you’re into isn’t perfect either! And that’s a good

“The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.” In concluding.. this statement says it all. We are so judgmental on ourselves, we become our biggest obstacle to pursue what we really want. Are we scared of rejection? Are we scared that we will not be good enough? Or are we just so self-cautious of our feelings that we talk ourselves out of everything that challenges us.